Indulgence vs. Restriction #seesawtalk

In society, we link ‘indulgence’ with a slight sense of ‘guilt’ or simply, ‘lack of control’. We see indulging as an excessive amount of time is being spent on a certain activity, a guilty pleasure, a wrong act of lavishness – whether it’s an item of food, a bubble bath, a shopping spree, or simply time doing absolutely nothing productive.

The concept of indulgence in everyday life is so tied up with doing something ‘extra’ or the idea of ’treating yourself’, to a point where ‘restriction’ becomes a lot of peoples’ default mindset. Everyday you hear people say they limit themselves to consuming a certain amount of something / time, that they won’t ‘go over the limit’. That they exercise self control because you’re not supposed to do what you want, spend your time on what you want to do, eat what you desire…

Yet if restriction is the way to go, why don’t we intrinsically feel happy when we stop ourselves from doing what we want?

If indulgence means excessiveness or going overboard, why do we always get a sense of satisfaction and gratification after indulging?

I suspect we’re underestimating the liberating power that indulgence in life can bring us, and that we’ve been so obsessed with restriction that it has fogged up our view on treating ourselves well.

As mindful as we all hope to be, why not redefine indulgence and restriction in our lives?

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The Dangers of Positive Thinking

When you hear the phrase ‘don’t worry, be happy’ – how does it make you feel?

When I started planning for INTENT, I began the brainstorming process with a few keywords. I knew clearly this has to be a platform that promotes self-improvement in an active, mindful way, through simplifying everyday life and omitting unnecessary ‘mental chores’. And now that I reflect on the whole planning process, I noticed that no where have I included the word ‘positivity’.

I’m someone who has never thought of whether it’s a half full or half empty glass in front of me. Instead it simply goes like this:

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